Life gets busy, and we are all guilty of failing to communicate and spend time with loved ones. There are times that you really need solitude, but I am trying to make sure my time with loved ones is of good quality. Your loved ones provide a necessary human connection that can be cathartic, loving, uplifting, etc. And I feel like those connections are often not given due respect and time.
I know I’m not the only person who struggles with this. The existence of social media lures you into a false sense of socialization. But it isn’t the same. It is limited in humanity. You can’t reach out to touch a person’s hand or hear the change in their voice. In-person or over the phone socialization is just better. Plus, with things like Skype, there’s no excuse!
And I’ve mentioned this before but for goodness sake, if you’re out with friends or family, put your damn phone away! It makes the other person feel like shit and any productive conversation grinds to a halt. We are all busy, so get the most out of that time. Commit to it.
I’ve been so busy recently and so has my husband, and last night I felt like we hadn’t had good quality time in a while, to the extent that I was missing him even though we saw each other every day. I knew we didn’t have much time, but we set aside two hours last night to have a nice relaxing dinner. My phone never left my purse. We talked and held hands and laughed. It was exactly what we both needed. Plus, we happened upon this delightful gathering in Astoria’s Athens Square Park:
I also have plans to go to an event with a friend tomorrow and will be celebrating my birthday on Saturday with friends. These are all important moments in our lives. So focus on your friends. Focus on your family. Show that you care by being 100% present.
And if you need more convincing, read this article from Psychology Today on the health benefits of socialization.